Frogs are not cuddly but each could be a prince. Today, the transformation is triggered by a princess’s kiss. In Grimm’s version it’s when the princess disgustedly throws the frog against a wall. In other cases the frog had only to spend a night on the princess’s pillow.
Setting fable aside, a sad fact about frogs is that one sitting in a pan of water will not notice the gradual change if the water is heated. It will remain unaware until it dies.
A frog that touches hot water, however, will immediately jump away from the danger. I say this because although no form of attention from a princess will transform me into a prince, I do try to notice and point out water that’s getting hotter.
A couple of days ago, someone I greatly respect asked: “Your posts seem a bit angry; do you feel that way?” I was surprised. “I don’t think so… I hope not… Hmmm, I do see what you mean. Maybe they do sound that way. It’s true that I very much want some things to change.”
My posts are on disparate topics but most are sparked when I notice something and feel like a frog sensing hot water. Wanting to alert my neighbors to the danger, I probably would be semi-wrathful.
What does semi-wrathful mean? Tibetan Buddhists use images of deities with peaceful, wrathful and semi-wrathful appearance. Meditating on them helps practitioners see the origin of their emotional habits and misguided concepts as they work to slowly gain control of their mind.
These deities do not experience emotion as we do. They do not feel attracted, repelled or indifferent. They simply recognize what is good and not good behavior, speech and thoughts.
Peaceful deities help calm the crazy spinning of the mind. Wrathful deities help destroy its passions, anger, desire and indifference. Semi-wrathful deities help those of us who sometimes need gentle calming and sometimes more urgency to do better.
Aspiring to be a semi-wrathful frog is better than the goal many of us are given, to be lion king of the jungle. That has three defects — lions do not live in the jungle, it is not possible to control the jungle, and above all, it’s selfish.
Selfishness makes everyone unhappy.